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Today I am going to share with you how and why blogging saved my life. As well as sharing some appreciation for the bloggers and content that has really inspired me to continue contributing to this incredible community we have all built together.

In 2006 the course of my life was changed forever. I was a bad teenager, bad daughter, bad sister and bad friend. There were some issues at home and my response to that was to get involved in the wrong crowd and be involved in things no 14 year old should ever be involved in. I had a terrible group of ‘friends’ that I would hang around with thinking I was the bees’ knees. That was until, a group of girls set upon me and my friend and beat us half to death. I won’t go into it too much, ill save that for another day but it was horrific. I suffered a broken nose & fractured eye socket along with other things, and my mental health troubles started here. When the forensic photographer came to take shots of my injuries she said she had seen lesser injuries on a dead body.

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear

and the blind can see”

That was the start of my blogging life and what would go on to change my life in its entirety. I was 14 years old, and the people I called my friends watched on as these girls beat me black and blue. I didn’t know where to turn, I was afraid to go to school, on buses, even to leave my house. Thankfully, my best friend Naomi stood by me, even though I had been a terrible friend. She would come to my house and we would just sit and search the internet together. This was when I first came across blogs. I watched all these girls chatting on twitter, sharing tips and advise and I finally felt a part of something again and just had to get involved.

Blogging has quite literally changed the course of my life, It was like that point in my life was a major cross roads and I turned left. I went on to meet some of my best friends through blogging and I now even work for a blogging magazine. Who would have thought it. I love this community and everything we stand for. If I’m having a terrible day, I know I can voice that on twitter and there will be a flurry of bloggers coming to offer love and support. This place we have built online is ours and we should be so proud of it.

In light of that, here is some of the content that has really helped me through the years and inspires to continue creating myself.

Blogging saved my life - a blog community appreciation post.

My favourite blog post of all time

Everyone who knows me personally will have probably heard me go on about this post. Kathy wrote this after losing her dog Annie and it is honestly one of the most beautiful pieces of writing I have ever layed eyes on. Even now, almost 4 years on, it still makes me so emotional and really defines how beautiful it is to have a dog. If you have a dog, have had a dog, or even just love dogs, I guarantee this post will give you all the feels. It is beautiful.

I read this in 2013 when Kathy first published it and have mentioned it to so many people over the years, but been unable to find it. That was until I met my amazing friend Elaine and her wizard like powers were able to export my tweet history and find this post. You have to give it a read, It really is incredible.

Blogging saved my life - a blog community appreciation post.

Most helpful blog post

Jessica’s blog as a whole is so helpful! Her posts on beauty are really informative and if your looking for a collection of blogging tips, you should really check out her site. Its so aesthetically pleasing, I could honestly spend hours browsing her posts. Her writing style, imagery, just everything is perfect. In particular her recent ’70 blog posts for bloggers’ has helped me so much, so if you haven’t already, I would definitely go follow her.

The video that changed my life

Its no secret that this year has been a hell of a ride for me. With the loss of my niece, a new job and the looming move to London, My mental health really took a beating. Just before I made the move, I had a few weeks of being really low. The negative thoughts were back and I would find myself crying in the car for no reason at all. I did some research online and came across this video. It explains the black wall of depression, like there is a darkness to the future. Not necessarily filled with bad things, but just nothing, you don’t know whats to come. At that point, that was where I was, the future was scary. Scared of moving away and things never being the same. Terrified of making a mistake. But after watching this video, I felt so comforted and un-alone in my thoughts. If you have or are battling depression, I would really recommend this video. If you have watched it, remember, spring is coming. What your feeling right now is just a season, it will pass.

My Style Icon 

I think everyone can appreciate a really well put together outfit. Its one of the best things about this community. There are so many of us, that there is always someone like you and someone to aspire to. Jaide Poppy is that person for me. I just absolutely love her style! She can take a jumper took it in to jeans with a pair of cool converse and look incredible. She is the person that inspires me most with fashion, I can relate to her and just think she is killing it!

My Insta theme of dreams

I recently met Chelsea at the comedy show we both attended to support Vix. You know when you meet someone and instantly click, that was me with Chelsea. She is just my type of person. When I discovered her Instagram I just fell in love, She blogs about interior design and lifestyle. Her Insta feed is literally what dreams are made of. I have always loved interiors but never really had opportunity to really focus on it. If you’re looking for some inspiration, you should definitely check our Chelsea’s platforms. Thank me later!

Blogging saved my life - a blog community appreciation post.

How did you start blogging? I love to hear peoples stories. Mine is extreme, but all of us have a reason we wanted to be a part of this community. Honestly, I am so thankful to each and every one of you that reads my little corner of the internet. I hope you enjoyed learning about my beginning and have enjoyed reading some of the content that I really appreciate.

This is my entry into week 3 of #TheBlogRace thanks again to Vix and Laila for selecting me.

Who inspires you? Let me know in the comments below.



  1. Laura Hollier
    September 29, 2017 / 6:58 pm

    I loved this post, it was really interesting to know your backstory, and I’m glad blogging is such a rock for you xxx

  2. October 8, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    Wow, I am so sorry you’ve had to go through that – some people truly are horrendous and good people like you do not deserve to experience anything like what you’ve described. But at the same time, I am so happy to hear that blogging has been such a positive experience for you and I can definitely agree that the community is so full of light and positivity. I started blogging for no specific reason other than for the fact that I overcame an eating disorder and after a few years of being recovered, wanted to share a newfound passion for healthy, balanced living with other people, as well as my love for food through recipes. And of course, it is great to have a creative outlet for my thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing your stories and all of these links. xox

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